Assumptions can be dangerous in a relationship, and they can kill a good relationship quickly if you’re not careful. Here are some of the most damaging assumptions we can make in a relationship:
· Assuming that they know that you’re sorry. If you are in the wrong but assume that they know you’re sorry, you’re making a dangerous assumption. It’s always best to apologize when you’ve made a mistake and let them know that you feel badly about hurting them. They don’t necessarily know that you feel bad or that you’re sorry and not apologizing can send the message that you don’t care.
· Assuming that they know how you feel. If you love them or care deeply about them, you have to come out and say it from time to time. When you assume they know how you feel, you run the risk of them feeling taken for granted or neglected. Even if you’ve already said it before, you need to keep telling them and not simply assuming that they know that you care about them.
· Assuming they know why you’re mad. If you’re upset about something you should just let them know what it is. Playing games or expecting them to guess is childish and just prolongs the disagreement while they are trying to figure it out. They aren’t a mind reader, so don’t just assume they know why you’re mad.